DEAR JANE: I only sleep with men who remind me of my aging father 2024.12.31 조회2회
Dear Jane,
I'm 22 years old and work as a waitress at a high-end restaurant in New York City. I'm used to having men hit on me at work, but I usually kindly reject them because I feel uncomfortable with the thought of dating a customer.
That was until recently.
Last month, a very handsome man came into the restaurant for a business dinner with a large group of people. He was very polite throughout their visit, even while some of the other guests in his group got a bit too drunk and rowdy.
At the end of the meal, he approached me and told me he thought I was very beautiful, and that he'd like to take me on a date.
I couldn't tell exactly how old this man was, but he was certainly a silver fox. I decided to say yes, thinking: 'What's the big deal - it's just a dinner.'
That weekend, he took me to an amazing bar, followed by a delicious dinner and then he invited me back to his gigantic apartment for a nightcap. I was so attracted to him and pleasantly surprised with how lovely he was. We ended up sleeping together.
The next morning, he made me breakfast and I joked that he sure knows how to treat a girl. He confessed he was previously married and has two daughters. I was a little taken aback and asked how old he was. He said 63. I was stunned.
DEAR JANE: I'm so ashamed to admit it, but I only sleep with men who remind me of my aging father
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Dear Jane...
Not only is he almost three times my age, but he's also the same age as my own father.
Despite sharing an amazing night, we didn't see each other again (he never called), which was disappointing because I genuinely enjoyed our time together.
But men in my own age range constantly disappoint me with their immaturity, lack of style and... small apartments! So, seeking the same thrill, the next time an older guy asked me out during my shift, I said yes.
With him I also enjoyed a great date and then ended up sleeping over and, once again, it was amazing.
The downside is that I feel rather ashamed of myself. After all, I can't have a 'real future' with a man the same age as my dad. If we had a baby when I was 30… he'd be over 70!
But I also don't know if I can go back to dating 'kids'. Would it be so bad to consider a serious relationship with a much older man?
From,
Silver-fox Hunter
International best-selling author Jane Green offers sage advice on readers' most burning issues in her agony aunt column
Dear Silver-fox Hunter,
I know couples with a large age gap, who have been together for years and are very happy. I also know couples with no age gap, who start off strong only to run into relationship problems as they get older. There is no magic combination that guarantees a successful partnership but there is a 'rule of thumb' of sorts.
When women in their forties get together with partners in their sixties there are often issues. At 40, many women are just coming into their prime, discovering who they are, feeling comfortable in their skin and ready to take on the world. But at 60, men are often slowing down and looking forward to quiet nights and time at home. That can make for a dysfunctional mix of priorities.
That said, I can't tell you who to be attracted to. Typically women don't demand enough from relationships - and we accept emotional immaturity from our mates. You don't appear to do that, so that's a good start. But you should consider the specific qualities that you find appealing in older men, perhaps this attraction is less about age and more about stage.
Wisdom and maturity can be found in twenty-somethings, just as stupidity and immaturity can be found in fifty-somethings. There are plenty of young men who are mature and sensible, have stable jobs and might be able to provide you with the stability and security you are searching for. So, look for the person, not the number of years.
As for the small apartments, my advice is this: Never rely on a man to give you the things that you want. You're young and in what may very well may be a starter job. Rather than spending your time hoping to meet a wealthy man, focus your energy on finding the work that will bring you joy. What are you passionate about? How could you make a difference in the world?
When we are happy and fulfilled in our work, money often follows. Design your life rather than look for someone to hand it to you.
Dear Jane,
My wife and I have always had a fabulous friendship with my old college roommate and his fantastic wife.
We've known each other for more than 20 years. As young couples (before we all got married), we'd hang out on weekends, go on vacations together and talk about our lives.
We've seen each other's good, bad and ugly - and nothing ever came between us.
Now something's different.
Our friends have two children; a 10-year-old boy and a three-year-old girl. We have kids the same age and spending time together as families is a complete nightmare.
Their children behave like monsters. The older boy is super aggressive and doesn't know how to share. The little girl is a snotty diva - constantly throwing hissy fits over nothing.
The two of them even make trouble with my kids, who are usually able to get along with nearly everyone.
Plus, our friends don't know how to parent. They refuse to discipline their kids even when it's obvious that something needs to be done. Instead, they laugh it off.
Once, I tried to tell my friend that he'd better get control of his little kids and their little issues, before they become bigger kids… with bigger issues. But he became super cold, and ever since, his wife acts differently toward me.
I'd say that we should just get together when someone else is watching the kids - but everyone is so busy, we'd never see them.
I feel like their kids have ruined our friendship. What can I do?
From,
Frank Friend
Dear Frank Friend,
Oh, how my heart goes out to you. I well remember the times I sat and watched in horror as the children of people I love behaved in ways I found awful.
There was the time when the teenage sons of our best friends came to us for Thanksgiving and the boys sat at the table playing loud video games throughout the entire meal, not talking to the other children or anyone else.
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I'm 22 years old and work as a waitress at a high-end restaurant in New York City. I'm used to having men hit on me at work, but I usually kindly reject them because I feel uncomfortable with the thought of dating a customer.
That was until recently.
Last month, a very handsome man came into the restaurant for a business dinner with a large group of people. He was very polite throughout their visit, even while some of the other guests in his group got a bit too drunk and rowdy.
At the end of the meal, he approached me and told me he thought I was very beautiful, and that he'd like to take me on a date.
I couldn't tell exactly how old this man was, but he was certainly a silver fox. I decided to say yes, thinking: 'What's the big deal - it's just a dinner.'
That weekend, he took me to an amazing bar, followed by a delicious dinner and then he invited me back to his gigantic apartment for a nightcap. I was so attracted to him and pleasantly surprised with how lovely he was. We ended up sleeping together.
The next morning, he made me breakfast and I joked that he sure knows how to treat a girl. He confessed he was previously married and has two daughters. I was a little taken aback and asked how old he was. He said 63. I was stunned.
DEAR JANE: I'm so ashamed to admit it, but I only sleep with men who remind me of my aging father
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Do YOU have a question for Jane? Ask it here:
Dear Jane...
Not only is he almost three times my age, but he's also the same age as my own father.
Despite sharing an amazing night, we didn't see each other again (he never called), which was disappointing because I genuinely enjoyed our time together.
But men in my own age range constantly disappoint me with their immaturity, lack of style and... small apartments! So, seeking the same thrill, the next time an older guy asked me out during my shift, I said yes.
With him I also enjoyed a great date and then ended up sleeping over and, once again, it was amazing.
The downside is that I feel rather ashamed of myself. After all, I can't have a 'real future' with a man the same age as my dad. If we had a baby when I was 30… he'd be over 70!
But I also don't know if I can go back to dating 'kids'. Would it be so bad to consider a serious relationship with a much older man?
From,
Silver-fox Hunter
International best-selling author Jane Green offers sage advice on readers' most burning issues in her agony aunt column
Dear Silver-fox Hunter,
I know couples with a large age gap, who have been together for years and are very happy. I also know couples with no age gap, who start off strong only to run into relationship problems as they get older. There is no magic combination that guarantees a successful partnership but there is a 'rule of thumb' of sorts.
When women in their forties get together with partners in their sixties there are often issues. At 40, many women are just coming into their prime, discovering who they are, feeling comfortable in their skin and ready to take on the world. But at 60, men are often slowing down and looking forward to quiet nights and time at home. That can make for a dysfunctional mix of priorities.
That said, I can't tell you who to be attracted to. Typically women don't demand enough from relationships - and we accept emotional immaturity from our mates. You don't appear to do that, so that's a good start. But you should consider the specific qualities that you find appealing in older men, perhaps this attraction is less about age and more about stage.
Wisdom and maturity can be found in twenty-somethings, just as stupidity and immaturity can be found in fifty-somethings. There are plenty of young men who are mature and sensible, have stable jobs and might be able to provide you with the stability and security you are searching for. So, look for the person, not the number of years.
As for the small apartments, my advice is this: Never rely on a man to give you the things that you want. You're young and in what may very well may be a starter job. Rather than spending your time hoping to meet a wealthy man, focus your energy on finding the work that will bring you joy. What are you passionate about? How could you make a difference in the world?
When we are happy and fulfilled in our work, money often follows. Design your life rather than look for someone to hand it to you.
Dear Jane,
My wife and I have always had a fabulous friendship with my old college roommate and his fantastic wife.
We've known each other for more than 20 years. As young couples (before we all got married), we'd hang out on weekends, go on vacations together and talk about our lives.
We've seen each other's good, bad and ugly - and nothing ever came between us.
Now something's different.
Our friends have two children; a 10-year-old boy and a three-year-old girl. We have kids the same age and spending time together as families is a complete nightmare.
Their children behave like monsters. The older boy is super aggressive and doesn't know how to share. The little girl is a snotty diva - constantly throwing hissy fits over nothing.
The two of them even make trouble with my kids, who are usually able to get along with nearly everyone.
Plus, our friends don't know how to parent. They refuse to discipline their kids even when it's obvious that something needs to be done. Instead, they laugh it off.
Once, I tried to tell my friend that he'd better get control of his little kids and their little issues, before they become bigger kids… with bigger issues. But he became super cold, and ever since, his wife acts differently toward me.
I'd say that we should just get together when someone else is watching the kids - but everyone is so busy, we'd never see them.
I feel like their kids have ruined our friendship. What can I do?
From,
Frank Friend
Dear Frank Friend,
Oh, how my heart goes out to you. I well remember the times I sat and watched in horror as the children of people I love behaved in ways I found awful.
There was the time when the teenage sons of our best friends came to us for Thanksgiving and the boys sat at the table playing loud video games throughout the entire meal, not talking to the other children or anyone else.
If you have any inquiries concerning where and ways to use seks neo sitesi HD, you could call us at the web-page.